ginmar (![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} ginmar) wrote,@ 2005-07-15 08:31:00 |
|
Oh, and you know what else?
Someone in a previous post couldn't figure out what to say to rapists to get them to stop raping. Here's some clues. SAy this to your friends, family, coworkers and whoever if they say any of this stuff.
1. IF a guy says something sexist about a woman, tell him to shut the fuck up. Yeah, okay, see if you can get them to listen to reason. If they won't, tell them they're ignorant and bigoted. Say it loudly in front of lots of people.
2.IF a woman say something sexist about a woman, tell her to shut the fuck up. See above.
3. If a woman says she was raped, asked if she's okay, and not what she was wearing.
4. If you see a guy at a party pouring lots of alcohol for a woman, keep an eye on him. Don't blame the alcohol for the rape, either. It should make you nervous that you're probably making the same excuse that he is.
5. If your buddy bitches about his ex girlfriend or ex wife, get her side of the story. If he sounds vicous about it, there's a really good chance his ex isn't the dogfucking, cokesniffing bitch he says she is. Women are not evil. Watch out for guys who think they are. Watch out for guys who are looking for an excuse to believe women are evil.
6. If you read a newspaper story that refers to a rape victim's appearance as being 'attractive' or similir, write or call the editor. The victim's appearance is not relevant to the story.
7. If you hear of a rape at a college, tell everyone you know you hope the guy goes to jail, no matter how many goals he scored. Then follow the story. If your friends say ignorant things about rape, correct them. To do that, see further down the list.
8. IF a woman you know says she's been raped, believe her.
9. If a woman you know says she's been raped by a buddy of yours, believe her.
10. Take a good long look at your buddies. They're great to you: are they shits to women? Do you not give a shit? Then you are part of the problem. If it does...Tell them to shape up. If they don't, dump them. Your friendship is a reward. If they get away with being sexist assholes with you, they think it's okay.
11. Write to TV stations if they show sexist commercials and TV shows. Read up on sexism.
Oh, wait, I'm sorry, this list isn't very glamourous, is it? There's nothign fun to it, is there? No knights on white horses, no battles, just tedious day after day fighting, constantly, over small things. Worse yet, these are things you have to do yourself, not push off on women. Sucks, does't it?
Well, if you don't fight those small things, they become big things and men think they can get away with raping women. Adn the sad thing is, they can.
12. Read some books about rape.
13. Read some books about feminism.
14. If someone says something ignorant about feminism, correct them. IF they persist, let them know it's offensive, and that they are no longer welcome.
15. Rapists are not guys in alleys. They are not mysterious figures. They're ordinary guys. Take a good long look at your friends. You probably know a rapist. Deal with it. Don't deal with it by thinking the victim is lying.
16. Think about your ideas about rape. Then do some research and compare them to reality.
17. Think about rapists. Think about the idea that they're normal guys. See how that changes your world.
18. Think about the idea that maybe women have been telling the truth all along about rape, and it's men who have been lying.
19. Look at your kids? Ever notice how much boys interupt girls and treat them disrespectfully? Tell them to stop doing that.
20. Every time you want to say something about how women should protect themselves against rape, say instead soemthing about how men shouldn't rape.
If YOU want to stop rape, you must do your part, because people who don't do these things contribute to a rape culture. The rapist is a normal guy. He's just a bit more 'normal' than other sexually aggressive guys. He still calls what he does 'sex' though. If you don't do the things on the above list, it's useless for me to write the next list. You understand?
And now for the fun part. This is for guys who don't think what they're doing or what their buddies are doing is rape.
This one doesn't get a number:
Rape is not the same thing as sex. You do not get to decide what rape is.
1. Getting a girl drunk is rape. You're a rapist. It's not sex. It's not whatever word you come up with. It's rape.
2. Drugging a girl is rape. It's not sex. It's not 'working a yes out.' You're a rapist.
3.If you commit one rape, you're a rapist.
4. If you didn't ask her and she didn't say no or yes you might be a rapist. Deal with it.
5. If a girl had sex with you before, you are not entitled to have sex with her whenever you feel like it.
6. If you feel like having sex with a girl, she is under no obligation to comply.
7. She doesn't owe you if you buy her dinner.
8. She doesn't owe you if you get excited looking at her cleavage or whatever. Your arousal is your concern, not hers. IF you try and make it her concern, she, however, is entitled to do whatever is necessary to protect herself.
9. If you think a woman might like to have sex with you, ask her. If she says no this means she doesn't want to. Take her at her word.
10. Rape is not a game. It is not a competition that a woman loses. You do not get points for scoring. You're an asshole.
11. It doesn't matter how many people she's had sex with.
12. If she doesn't say yes, you're a rapist.
13. "She didn't say no' does not count as consent.
14. If she asks you to have sex with her, she is not a slut.
15. If she once asked you to have sex with her, you cannot then rape her whenever you want.
16. Sex is not something you earn. It's not a paycheck.
17. IF she is not capable of saying no you are a rapist.
18. If you are in a position of power over her that some aspect of her fate depends upon, you are a rapist.
19. If you don't have a gun, you're still a rapist.
20. If you use a condom, you are still a rapist.
21. IF she asks you to use a condom, you are still a rapist.
22. If she is wearing nothing at all, you are still a rapist.
23. IF she fucked every guy in the school but you, you are still a rapist.
24. If you are her friend, and she said no, you are still a rapist.
25. If you prevent her from saying no, you are still a rapist.
26. If she's too afraid to say no, you are still a rapist.
27. If she's too unconscious to say no, you are still a rapist.
28. If she says anything but yes or let's have sex you are a rapist.
29. If she says no while you are having sex and you do not immediately stop, you are a rapist.
30. If you were once married to her, you are not entitled to have sex with her once the marriage is over.
31. IF you are currently married to her or dating her, you are a rapist, if she says no.
32. If you prevent her from saying no or do not ask the question, you are a rapist.
33. It doesn't matter if you were drunk or drugged. You are a rapist. You're also in denial. You're not doing anything you're not capable of while sober.
34. If she's wearing nothing but a thong, and she says no, you are a rapist.
35. IF she's wearing a short skirt and she says no, you are a rapist.
36. If she's drunk and naked and ahs fucked another guy and says no to you, you are a rapist.
37. If you know your buddy is going to commit a rape, and you do not object, yell, shout, or try and stop him, then there's a very good chance you are a rapist.
38. If your buddy has raped a woman and you are still his buddy, you are a coward and you are contributing to a rape culture.
39. IF your buddy says things about how women ask for it and you don't tell him he's an asshole, you're encouraging a potential rapist.
40. If you do not fight rape, you cannot fight feminists who do.
Someone in a previous post couldn't figure out what to say to rapists to get them to stop raping. Here's some clues. SAy this to your friends, family, coworkers and whoever if they say any of this stuff.
1. IF a guy says something sexist about a woman, tell him to shut the fuck up. Yeah, okay, see if you can get them to listen to reason. If they won't, tell them they're ignorant and bigoted. Say it loudly in front of lots of people.
2.IF a woman say something sexist about a woman, tell her to shut the fuck up. See above.
3. If a woman says she was raped, asked if she's okay, and not what she was wearing.
4. If you see a guy at a party pouring lots of alcohol for a woman, keep an eye on him. Don't blame the alcohol for the rape, either. It should make you nervous that you're probably making the same excuse that he is.
5. If your buddy bitches about his ex girlfriend or ex wife, get her side of the story. If he sounds vicous about it, there's a really good chance his ex isn't the dogfucking, cokesniffing bitch he says she is. Women are not evil. Watch out for guys who think they are. Watch out for guys who are looking for an excuse to believe women are evil.
6. If you read a newspaper story that refers to a rape victim's appearance as being 'attractive' or similir, write or call the editor. The victim's appearance is not relevant to the story.
7. If you hear of a rape at a college, tell everyone you know you hope the guy goes to jail, no matter how many goals he scored. Then follow the story. If your friends say ignorant things about rape, correct them. To do that, see further down the list.
8. IF a woman you know says she's been raped, believe her.
9. If a woman you know says she's been raped by a buddy of yours, believe her.
10. Take a good long look at your buddies. They're great to you: are they shits to women? Do you not give a shit? Then you are part of the problem. If it does...Tell them to shape up. If they don't, dump them. Your friendship is a reward. If they get away with being sexist assholes with you, they think it's okay.
11. Write to TV stations if they show sexist commercials and TV shows. Read up on sexism.
Oh, wait, I'm sorry, this list isn't very glamourous, is it? There's nothign fun to it, is there? No knights on white horses, no battles, just tedious day after day fighting, constantly, over small things. Worse yet, these are things you have to do yourself, not push off on women. Sucks, does't it?
Well, if you don't fight those small things, they become big things and men think they can get away with raping women. Adn the sad thing is, they can.
12. Read some books about rape.
13. Read some books about feminism.
14. If someone says something ignorant about feminism, correct them. IF they persist, let them know it's offensive, and that they are no longer welcome.
15. Rapists are not guys in alleys. They are not mysterious figures. They're ordinary guys. Take a good long look at your friends. You probably know a rapist. Deal with it. Don't deal with it by thinking the victim is lying.
16. Think about your ideas about rape. Then do some research and compare them to reality.
17. Think about rapists. Think about the idea that they're normal guys. See how that changes your world.
18. Think about the idea that maybe women have been telling the truth all along about rape, and it's men who have been lying.
19. Look at your kids? Ever notice how much boys interupt girls and treat them disrespectfully? Tell them to stop doing that.
20. Every time you want to say something about how women should protect themselves against rape, say instead soemthing about how men shouldn't rape.
If YOU want to stop rape, you must do your part, because people who don't do these things contribute to a rape culture. The rapist is a normal guy. He's just a bit more 'normal' than other sexually aggressive guys. He still calls what he does 'sex' though. If you don't do the things on the above list, it's useless for me to write the next list. You understand?
And now for the fun part. This is for guys who don't think what they're doing or what their buddies are doing is rape.
This one doesn't get a number:
Rape is not the same thing as sex. You do not get to decide what rape is.
1. Getting a girl drunk is rape. You're a rapist. It's not sex. It's not whatever word you come up with. It's rape.
2. Drugging a girl is rape. It's not sex. It's not 'working a yes out.' You're a rapist.
3.If you commit one rape, you're a rapist.
4. If you didn't ask her and she didn't say no or yes you might be a rapist. Deal with it.
5. If a girl had sex with you before, you are not entitled to have sex with her whenever you feel like it.
6. If you feel like having sex with a girl, she is under no obligation to comply.
7. She doesn't owe you if you buy her dinner.
8. She doesn't owe you if you get excited looking at her cleavage or whatever. Your arousal is your concern, not hers. IF you try and make it her concern, she, however, is entitled to do whatever is necessary to protect herself.
9. If you think a woman might like to have sex with you, ask her. If she says no this means she doesn't want to. Take her at her word.
10. Rape is not a game. It is not a competition that a woman loses. You do not get points for scoring. You're an asshole.
11. It doesn't matter how many people she's had sex with.
12. If she doesn't say yes, you're a rapist.
13. "She didn't say no' does not count as consent.
14. If she asks you to have sex with her, she is not a slut.
15. If she once asked you to have sex with her, you cannot then rape her whenever you want.
16. Sex is not something you earn. It's not a paycheck.
17. IF she is not capable of saying no you are a rapist.
18. If you are in a position of power over her that some aspect of her fate depends upon, you are a rapist.
19. If you don't have a gun, you're still a rapist.
20. If you use a condom, you are still a rapist.
21. IF she asks you to use a condom, you are still a rapist.
22. If she is wearing nothing at all, you are still a rapist.
23. IF she fucked every guy in the school but you, you are still a rapist.
24. If you are her friend, and she said no, you are still a rapist.
25. If you prevent her from saying no, you are still a rapist.
26. If she's too afraid to say no, you are still a rapist.
27. If she's too unconscious to say no, you are still a rapist.
28. If she says anything but yes or let's have sex you are a rapist.
29. If she says no while you are having sex and you do not immediately stop, you are a rapist.
30. If you were once married to her, you are not entitled to have sex with her once the marriage is over.
31. IF you are currently married to her or dating her, you are a rapist, if she says no.
32. If you prevent her from saying no or do not ask the question, you are a rapist.
33. It doesn't matter if you were drunk or drugged. You are a rapist. You're also in denial. You're not doing anything you're not capable of while sober.
34. If she's wearing nothing but a thong, and she says no, you are a rapist.
35. IF she's wearing a short skirt and she says no, you are a rapist.
36. If she's drunk and naked and ahs fucked another guy and says no to you, you are a rapist.
37. If you know your buddy is going to commit a rape, and you do not object, yell, shout, or try and stop him, then there's a very good chance you are a rapist.
38. If your buddy has raped a woman and you are still his buddy, you are a coward and you are contributing to a rape culture.
39. IF your buddy says things about how women ask for it and you don't tell him he's an asshole, you're encouraging a potential rapist.
40. If you do not fight rape, you cannot fight feminists who do.